The toddler or preschooler who cuddles in your lap for comfort has developed beyond the basic needs he had when you brought him home from the hospital. These included the needs to breathe, drink, eat, sleep, stay warm, get rid of bodily waste and avoid pain. Once these basic "physiological" needs are satisfied, says Maslow, your child starts to crave safety and security. The hugs you give are just as important as food in helping your child grow.