Our biggest problem is my emotional and mental health disorders. I am sure you think I am using them as a crutch but they are very real and I have been suffering the consequences of them long before you came into my life. I rarely leave my home, only if absolutely necessary. I rarely have people over. I keep all my doors and windows double-locked with alarms and the drapes drawn. I do not answer my phone, I let the answering machine get it and I listen to them later. If I have business with new people I generally will do it by email unless I have to speak on the phone. These are just some of the horrors I face from this one disorder. I cannot expect you to fully understand but I do wish you would read about one of the phobias called Social anxiety disorder, also called social phobia.