The Most Blessed Nikah
28 أغسطس، 2013، الساعة 11:30 مساءً
أعوذ بالله من الشيطان الرجيم
I Seek Refuge With (الله)God From The Stoned Shaitan (Satan)
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
In The Name Of (الله)God, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
The Most Blessed Nikah
We begin with Allah's Blessed name; we praise Him and we glorify Him as He aught to be glorified and we pray for peace and blessings on all His noble messengers and in particular the last of them all, the blessed Prophet Muhammad(سيدنا محمد ﺻﻠﯽ الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺍٓﻟﮧ وصحبه ﻭﺳﻠﻢ).
The Translation Of The Next Hadith Is:
"The most blessed Nikah is the one in which least expenses are occured" and is simple. Allāh has put barkat in simplicity, but nowadays the weddings have to be in halls and thousands of people are invited for meals. Food is served in buffet style, free intermingling of sexes, various types of food is served, music is blaring loudly, photos are taken with the bride being displayed on the stage, if possible then the whole wedding is also put on video etc etc.
About buffet style eating Allāh states in the Holy Qur'ān:﴾وَيَأْكُلُونَ كَمَا تَأْكُلُ الْأَنْعَامُ﴿ "They eat like animals."
This verse was for the kuffār. What a pity that the Muslims are now immitating the Western Kuffār. Whereas the true benefactor of the ummah announced it fourteen hundred years back, that do not eat & drink while standing.
Rasoolullah (سيدنا محمد ﺻﻠﯽ الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺍٓﻟﮧ وصحبه ﻭﺳﻠﻢ) mentioned that the Nikaah with the most Barakah is one which is,
أَيْسَرُهُ مَؤُنَةً
“With The Least Expense.”
The Muslims Are Openly Going Against This Beloved Teaching.
Another evil in these weddings is that video films are made of the wedding, certain bearded and so called pious people keep sitting and seeing all this happening. It is NOT permissible to even sit there, it is Wajib to go away from there immediately. Any gathering where Allāh is disobeyed, should be walked out on, even as far as removing the morsel that was in the mouth already. These are evil customs which people dare to call marriage of simplicity and blessings. Naoothu billahimin Thālik.
If a Walimah has to take place then it too should be done very simply. It is not Wajib to make Walimah inviting hundreds of people and keeping it in a hall. Invite a few needy people and feed them, the sunnah of Walimah will be achieved. Feed the walimah guests in your house, you won't need to hire a hall for which you have to pay hundreds. Rather save all this money and give it to your daughter or son who is marrying or keep it for yourself and use it in a good cause. Remember, even if thousands of people will attend the wedding or walimah, they will never be satisfied, they will have unending complaints, e.g. the food was too salty or too oily or the meat was not done properly or it was too strong, or the food was tasteless or burnt etc. etc. Therefore leave all this wastage and work with simplicity.
A Sahābi got married in Medina and he did not even invite Rasulullah (سيدنا محمد ﺻﻠﯽ الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺍٓﻟﮧ وصحبه ﻭﺳﻠﻢ) to a walima feast. When Rasulullah (سيدنا محمد ﺻﻠﯽ الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺍٓﻟﮧ وصحبه ﻭﺳﻠﻢ) found out about this Sahābi's marriage, he did not show displeasure to this Sahābi that why why did he not invite him. Nowadays the family fights if they are not invited and say they will not invite to their functions and will not attend any other gathering in future. All this is ignorance. So a Nikah in which least expenses are occured, think it to be the most blessed.
Faatimah (رضي الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰعنها) is the youngest daughter of our beloved Prophet (سيدنا محمد ﺻﻠﯽ الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺍٓﻟﮧ وصحبه ﻭﺳﻠﻢ). Out of all the children, he was the most beloved to him. He said, 'The Queen of the ladies in Jannat is Faatimah.' He also said, 'Faatimah is part of my body. Whoever grieves her, grieves me.'
When Faatimah (رضي الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰعنها) reached the age of fifteen, proposals for her marriage began to come from high and responsible families. But the Prophet (سيدنا محمد ﺻﻠﯽ الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺍٓﻟﮧ وصحبه ﻭﺳﻠﻢ) remained irresponsive.
Ali (رضي الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ عنه), who was 21 at the time, says: It occurred to me that I should go and make a formal proposal, but then I thought, 'How could this be accomplished, for I possess nothing.' At last, encouraged by the Prophet's kindness, I went to him and expressed my intention to marry Faatima (رضي الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰعنها) . The Prophet (سيدنا محمد ﺻﻠﯽ الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺍٓﻟﮧ وصحبه ﻭﺳﻠﻢ) was extremely pleased and asked, 'Ali! Do you possess anything to give her in Mahr?' I replied, 'Apart from a horse and an armour I possess nothing.'
The Prophet (سيدنا محمد ﺻﻠﯽ الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺍٓﻟﮧ وصحبه ﻭﺳﻠﻢ) said, 'A soldier must, of course, have his horse. Go and sell away your armour.'
So, Ali (رضي الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ عنه) went and sold his armour to Uthmaan (رضي الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ عنه) for 480 Dirham and presented it to Rasulullah (سيدنا محمد ﺻﻠﯽ الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺍٓﻟﮧ وصحبه ﻭﺳﻠﻢ)). Bilaal (رضي الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ عنه) was ordered by the Prophet (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) to bring some perfume and a few other things and Anas (Radhiallaahu Anhu) was sent to call Abu Bakr, Uthmaan, Talhah, Zubayr with some companions from the Ansaar (رضي الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ عنهم).
When these men arrived and had taken their seats, the Prophet (سيدنا محمد ﺻﻠﯽ الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺍٓﻟﮧ وصحبه ﻭﺳﻠﻢ) recited the Khutbah (sermon) of Nikaah and gave Faatimah (رضي الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰعنها) in marriage to Ali (رضي الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ عنه). He announced, 'Bear you all witness that I have given my daughter Faatimah in marriage to Ali for 400 Mithqaal of silver and Ali has accepted.' He then raised his head and made Dua saying, 'O Allah, create love and harmony between these two. Bless them and bestow upon them good children.' after the Nikaah, dates were distributed.
When the time came for Faatimah (رضي الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰعنها) to go to Ali's (رضي الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ عنه) house, she was sent without any clamour, hue and cry accompanied Umm Ayman (Radhiallaahu Anhu). After the Aaisha Salaat, the Prophet (سيدنا محمد ﺻﻠﯽ الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺍٓﻟﮧ وصحبه ﻭﺳﻠﻢ) went to their house, took permission and entered. He asked for a basin of water, put his blessed hands into it and sprinkled it on both Ali (رضي الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ عنه) and Faatimah (رضي الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰعنها) and made Dua for them.
The sovereign of both worlds gave his beloved daughter a silver bracelet, two Yemeni sheets, four mattresses, one blanket, one pillow, one cup, one hand-grinding mill, one bedstead, a small water skin and a leather pitcher.
In this simple fashion, the wedding of the daughter of the leader of the worlds was solemnised. In following this Sunnah method, a wedding becomes very simple and easy to fulfill.
Question:
What Kind Of Marriage Will Be Yours ?
As Per Sunnah ?
Or
As Per Your Desires ?