funny, I never thought of being “good mother” had anything to do with any of that. I’ve always judged myself by how happy & healthy my son is. Is his needs getting met? If I can’t do myself, do I make sure he is getting in other ways? (ex: roughhousing, daddy is much better @that :) ) is he safe & sercure? Does he know how much Mommy&Daddy loves him? As he gets older, I’ll judge myself by also asking, is he a good person?
I just don’t see how mommy mangeing to hit the shower that day has anything to do with being a “good mom”.